Premature cumshot

A problem that should not be underestimated

Premature ejaculation, or premature ejaculation, is a problem that should not be underestimated. Of course, it happens to every man that he cums faster than he would like. In some men, however, this happens very quickly and often. When this is the case, unsatisfactory sex life, feelings of shame and even depression can be the result. As a result, the relationship can also come under severe pressure. In short: reasons to want to do something about early cumulative. Fortunately that is also possible!

What exactly is meant by premature cumshot?

Before we give a few tips on how to deal with premature ejaculation, we will go deeper into what is meant by premature ejaculation. This is to unclear unrealistic thoughts about this. After all, these can lead to unnecessary disappointment and tension. For example, it is a fable that sex should last at least fifteen minutes or longer.

We speak of premature ejaculation when a man has no control over the moment of cumshot, so this occurs with minimal stimulation before, during or shortly after penetration. As a result, sex stops abruptly and the premature ejaculation seriously impedes a satisfying sex life of the man and / or his partner.

But what is too fast?

In other words: the orgasm is reached faster than desired. But what is too fast? According to sexologists, this is when a man comes to terms with intimate contact or sexual intercourse within 30-120 seconds. However, if both partners like this, there is no problem and therefore no premature ejaculation.

The duration of a 'normal' penetration

But what is the normal duration of a penetration? In order to answer this question, large-scale research has been conducted in the US and Canada. One asked thousands of couples to measure the time between the first vaginal penetration and the cumshot. The results were as follows:

• Short: 0-2 min .;
• Sufficient: 3-7 min .;
• Ideal: 7-13 min .;
• Too long: 10-30 min.

When a man thinks that he should be able to sustain sexual intercourse for more than half an hour, and he is convinced that he 'only' succeeds for fifteen minutes, then there is no question of premature ejaculation. What such a man does suffer from is an unrealistic pattern of expectations.

Is premature ejaculation common?

As mentioned, sexologists speak of a premature ejaculation when a man cums within 30-60 seconds after sexual stimulation. In addition, the following must play:

• There is no variation in the speed with which he ejaculates;
• He systematically feels that he does not have a grip on the moment of cumshot;
• Premature ejaculation is done independently of the way you make love and the situation in which you are having sex.

It is estimated that about 2% -3% of men suffer from this. With some of them, a touch of their sex is enough to get ready. The percentage of men who think that 'every now and then' is going to come out prematurely is of a completely different order. In a Dutch study, this percentage was 64%. A large majority of these considered this a problem.

The primary and secondary form of premature ejaculation

There are two forms of premature ejaculation: primary PE (premature ejaculation) and secondary PE.

• Primary PE: when a man cums prematurely from his first sexual contact, when this is the case with virtually every sexual contact and when this problem continues or worsens as he gets older;
• Secondary PE: when a man suddenly suffers from premature ejaculation, whereas this was not the case before.

The causes of premature ejaculation

If you suffer from premature ejaculation, this can be caused by the following:

• It is learned behavior. Premature ejaculation can be learned during adolescence by getting ready as quickly as possible during (secretive) masturbation;
• Low serotonin content. Serotonin is a substance that transmits messages in the brain and also plays an important role in the formation of an orgasm. Scientific research shows that premature ejaculation can be caused by a serotonin deficiency. This is because the brain does not get the right signal about the moment at which the cumshot has to happen;
• Performance drive and performance anxiety. Due to the stress and tension that result from this, the control over the moment of cumulation decreases. This is because stress increases the adrenalin level in the body and breaks down adrenaline serotonin;
• Over- and under-activity of the pelvic floor muscles. If the pelvic floor muscles (for example, due to stress) are too tight and these are contracted by sexual stimulation, this can lead to over-stimulation. An underactive pelvic floor can also lead to loss of control at the moment of cumshot;
• Prostate problems. A few studies showed that approximately 25 - 75% of men with an inflamed prostate gland are premature.

What to do against premature ejaculation?

Fortunately, there is a lot to do against premature ejaculation. Which approach suits you best depends on the cause of your PE. Roughly there are three forms of treatment: with medication, sex therapy and physiotherapy.

• Medicines. Paroxetine and dapoxetine are serotonin reuptake inhibitors or SSRIs. Because these substances prevent the release of released serotonin, a better grip is obtained at the moment of cumshot. A disadvantage of SSRIs is that they do not eliminate the cause of premature ejaculation. For example, a study with paroxetine shows that in about 50% of the cases the problem recurs when one stops using it;
• Sex therapy. Treatment with sex therapy will be aimed at removing thoughts that lead to anxiety or performance. The so-called 'squeeze and start-stop methods' are also often used because they can be very efficient. You can also learn to postpone your orgasm yourself. Click here for more information about this .;
• Physiotherapy. By means of kinesia therapy, a pelvic floor therapist teaches men to check and relax their pelvic floor and thus delay their ejaculation over time.
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